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About Total Life Recovery



  • Serving: 20 Years
  • Charged: Identity theft and forgery
  • Joined TLR: 2007
  • Goals: To open up her own business called "Get It Together" and help others who hae gone down the wrong path

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My name is Lillian and I've been incarcerated so far for 6 years. I'm originally from the Fiji islands. I'm a single parent with three children ages 22, 14 and 12. My dad is East Indian and my mother is Fijian, so their two cultures clashed and I was looked upon as an outcast on both sides of the family. We moved here in 1976 and both my parents became alcoholics. There was a lot of abuse in the home, domestic violence we were surrounded with that. When I was 17, they divorced and I was left to fend for myself. Abandonment and rejection lead me to prostitution, domestic violence, bad relationships, looking for love in all the wrong places and all the wrong faces. From there, I learned street survival skills that led me on a downward spiral from stealing small things to theft and promoting prostitution in the third degree to identity theft.

At the age of 21, I was raped with a 357-magnum gun put to my head, I was also date raped so I went through a lot of trauma in my life. Where do I go from there? I used drugs to numb all the pain and the hurt. Nobody cares, why should I? That's what was in my head. That's when I got arrested feeling of abandonment and rejection was the main thing. We all suffered through it here. I became a mom, I had my 3 children, I left my kids, didn't know how to become a mother. So that's what brought me to jail, trying to support my drug habit.

Since joining TLR, I've learned to be come a leader, set an example and give back. My spiritual strength is number one here.

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She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. Proverbs 31
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